“Listen for what is NOT said.” A beloved professor of mine in graduate school said this, teaching and encouraging us, as therapists-to-be. It made a profound impression on me. It’s sage advice—for therapists in client sessions—and for everyone else, in all kinds of situations and relationships. For therapists, this advice on how to listen, not […]
“He is able who thinks he is able.” –The Buddha I don’t follow golf, though my husband is a fanatical observer of golf and a very active golfer. He was watching a televised golf tournament today. A lesser light… I heard the announcer droning on; he was mentioning a lesser light in the constellation of […]
Habits and other automatic patterns of behavior can, as we all know, become problematic. Every New Year’s Eve, millions of resolutions are made, and many are aimed at breaking unwanted habits or behaviors. Come the end of January, often, we face reality (and disappointment), as efforts to change the behavior fall short. What may not […]
Sometimes a poem can say what would otherwise go unheard. How this happens is a mystery to me. Awakening Now Why wait for your awakening? The moment your eyes are open, seize the day. Would you hold back when the Beloved beckons? Would you deliver your litany of sins like a child’s collection of sea […]
I am so lucky. I have just been invited today to join a Brave Group; women who have gathered to support each other in being brave in their lives. This got me thinking: What does it mean to be brave? Bravery… Some Definitions Definitions abound, apparently, and they are all, perhaps, true!1. “When you run […]
“These are the days it never rains but it pours…” David Bowie and Freddy Mercury were right (in their song, “Under Pressure”). It’s well-known (and tolerated!) that the pace of life is harsh and keeps speeding up all the time. Shorter deadlines, worse traffic, even-less sleep, and relentless changes—political, cultural, and technological—all add to the […]
Today can be a perfect starting place, a portal; it can be a magical, even mystical, point of departure. Where to, you might ask? This very moment can be a doorway, gateway, pathway… even a membrane. The metaphors all serve. For me it’s a line. I think of it as a boundary line we can […]
Wondering how to select the right life coach for you? There are many kinds of coaches offering services for a wide range of needs and goals people have. How do you know what to look for, and what to avoid? The first thing to ask—of yourself, that is—would be: “What kind of coaching is right […]
